on porn & where I stand
September 23, 2007 (b)
**This is in response to a question posed by Janeane regarding my previous entry about women faking orgasms.
I commented on this privately, but felt that it raised a good point and was definitely entry-worthy material.
Her question: Do you think porn is morally wrong/impacts men's perception of women negatively?**
I honestly don't view pornography as morally wrong, however, I do think it skews mens' view of female sexuality. A lot of times they see these women in pornos screaming their heads off while those guys are just thrusting away and somehow get it into their heads that this is how to please a woman. If she's not moaning and groaning just because I stick it in, it means there's something wrong with her.
But then, I also know many guys who watch porn mostly for the visual aspect. And as much as they DO enjoy hearing a woman vocally expressing her pleasure, they want the woman they are with to show them what feels good and what doesn't. Most of the guys I know find porn situations and dialogue to be silly...
So, it boils down, to me, to be just a strange mix of visual stimulation vs. the context of reality.
I feel that as long as a man understands what is real and what is not (and he does not have some sort of gross addiction to the stuff) pornography really isn't such a big deal. Absolutely anything can be taken to extremes...it's up to individuals to draw the line and know on which side of it they're going to stand.
